So your friend calls you over the weekend and suggests that you accompany them to a party of an acquaintance. You are not familiar with the acquaintance or what the party is all about but since you do not want to let down your friend, (or you really had no other plans) you accept. You wear the closest and most comfortable outfit, slide into some weekend shoes and are on your way to the party.
One problem though………..when you get to the party, you realize that you (and maybe your friend also) are the only ones in jeans, a t-shirt and loafers. Ouch! You look totally out of place with everyone else all dressed up.
‘Well, we are here’, your friend tries to console you and make you enjoy your time at the party. But with every giggle round the corner, or with every ‘Hallo’, ‘Hi’ with a twisted smile makes you feel like the earth should open up and swallow you or like Dracula can cast a spell on all the guests and they forget they ever saw you.
Oh, well, as your friend or the host would put it, relax and enjoy the party. The earlier you are able do that (relax) the better for you because most people can tell when you someone is uncomfortable, and relaxing might just erase their formed opinions of you. In fact, if you become social and mingle, you might be surprised how fast they forget your dress mishap. You are allowed to excuse yourself in a joking manner but you are not under any circumstances allowed to put yourself down.
So how do we avoid such incidences and how do we ensure we show up ‘looking-the-part’ for future events?
Am sure there are more tips on how to dress right for each event. Why don’t you share with us what we might have left out?
As always, looking forward to hearing from you. Nkatha Ogutu.